“Not only are the very sensitive nerves of the anus stimulated,” she says, “but you also get stimulated through deeper penetration through the prostate […] it’s a different kind of orgasmic feeling, and the variety and unpredictability of the experience itself allows it to be more of a titillating experience.” When it comes to female orgasms, folks with front-facing vulvas can also receive clitoral pleasure while penetrating their partner. “This,” Stewart says, “is because of where the dildo on the harness sits […] The orgasm itself may come from the rubbing and the pressure of the grinding on the butt during pegging, so finding a good rhythm and the motions that suit you best are going to be the best way to produce orgasms that you might not have experienced in the past.”
In other words, everyone gets to get off. What’s not to love about that?
How to Get Ready to Peg
To douche, or not to douche? That’s between you and the Lord when it comes to pegging prep, but I would advise you to take a step back even further; make sure you’re eating a balanced diet, drinking lots of water, and experiencing healthy bowel movements before you even start to think about popping open the back hatch. I’ve never douched (granted, I’m also not a size queen), but I’ll almost always prep for any kind of ass play by sticking my finger about an inch into my anus during a shower with a gentle, rolling motion. It’s an easy way to turn my ass into a lickable dinner plate.
Above all, talk to your partner before, during, and post-peg about the experience. What are you both searching for in that 5-inch schlong? Dom-sub play? Roleplay? The Conquest of Hegel’s Unhappy Consciousness? Communicate your needs, and, most of all, get loose with it. Sex is inherently weird. When in doubt, lean into your joint sense of curiosity, and remember that dirty talk can quite literally be as easy as asking for what you’d like to explore with your partner.
Last but not least: lube, lube, and more lube. Your anus is a powerhouse when it comes to so many things, but it (sadly) doesn’t create its own lubrication. In the case of this silicone strap-on, I would advise using water-based lubricants by brands such as Astroglide or Lube Life that won’t erode the dildo’s plastic over time like a silicone-based lube would. But I’ve also been guilty of using my travel-sized bottle of the silicone-based Überlube—which is so buttery and luxurious, it really is like the La Mer of lubes—when I have found myself pegging on vacation or away from home. Just be warned: Silicone-based lubes can leave stains on your bedding, so squirt accordingly, and consider throwing down a throw or dedicated sex blanket beforehand.
Our Review of the Lovehoney Strap-On Kit
Part of the reason it took me so long to peg was the flurry of pegging gear in my tabs, from comparing various leather harnesses costing upwards of $100 to feeling overwhelmed by the high-tech, German-made dildos that I knew I would love, but which felt a little too specific to serve as an entry-level dildo for future partners. For that reason, I really appreciate the under-$50 price tag of Lovehoney’s kit. (I’ve spent the same amount of money on mid face creams and over-hyped brunch.) Plus, the bundle is refreshingly non-fussy with its offerings: It comes with three graduated rings designed to fit a variety of dildos, and the lightweight harness stretches up to 68 inches wide, while the matte black silicone dildo—which measures in at five inches with 4.5 inches of insertable length and looks slightly Kubrickian (that’s what you should tell your Criterion-pilled fuccboi date, at least)—is hollow, just in case you want to slip a bullet vibrator into the shaft for heightened sensations while smashing.
